Don't Cry Over A Man

Oh come on... just quit it. Quit the moping around in your robes just because some guy dump you. After all that he'd done, breaking your heart into pieces and now you want to give him the satisfaction that you're still not over him yet? Sorry girl, that's not the way to handle your heartbreak. Just think of the big smug smile on your ex's face if he knew that you've not gotten over him. And why in the world should you feel sore about losing him? Is he worth all that tears? Come on, get a grip on yourself and now's the time to forget all about him and start life anew.

So, how do you handle those initial tragic moments when your heart is crushed by the very person whom you had given your heart to and shared your life with?

Should you bawl your eyes out? Or should you slit your wrists with the hope that you'll gain his sympathy and he'll come running back to you? A big yes for the first question (but only for a couple days, tops) and a big no, no for the second one. Tough luck he's gonna run back to you baby. Especially not after he's the one who has so casually broken your heart. So why be stupid enough to end your life in vain when he's for sure has totally forgotten all about you and has moved on with his life with a new partner.

By all means get that tight feeling that has been bottling up inside you off your chest. Yes, cry girl, go on... have a good cry, there there. Now after you're finished with all the crying which should only take you 2 days at most, start planning on how to get your heart and life back on track, this time without him.

Start by focusing on rebuilding your self-esteem. Pamper yourself. Go to a spa, get a good full body massage, get a pedicure and manicure. Then go to the hair salon and get a new haircut but don't go overboard please cos you don't want to go home later and cry over that 'over-short' hairstyle, do you?

Later, after you've had pampered yourself silly with all the grooming and relaxing why don't you go out shopping with your girl friends and paint the mall red! Just don't over charge on those credit cards please. You may be tempted to throw caution to the wind when in such mood but please remain level-headed at all times. You really don't want added problems where you end up being chased by banks for payment, do you? So, yes spend but within limits.

At a time like this it won't work to your advantage if you are on your own. As best as you could avoid being alone for those first few months. Try to always be in the company of others. Why don't you join a social network where you have common interests with the others and share. Or take turns having sleepovers at your house and your friends'.

Finally, if you have some money to spare there's no better time than this to go for a vacation. Take a trip to a totally new place where you can gain new experience and meet new people. While you're there don't pass up any chances of trying out new things too. You'll appreciate the experience. This may even make you forget all about your heartbreak.

There are many other ways of course for you to heal yourself. The possibilities are endless actually if you seriously want to get your life back on track after you've been dumped. Just stop that moping around and crying over that man. Always remember, he is totally not worth it and he definitely doesn't deserve you. So why should you shed tears over him? Makes no sense at all, does it?